On to Charleston

…and we’re driving to North Charleston. We got lost for a minute GPSed our way to our North Charleston Marriott Hotel, which was minimalist swank. I was like, “OK, Mr. K!” We were pretty tired from driving. (I haven’t touched the steering wheel yet). Whew! We rested that night and were ready to meet the day for Charleston sites. The restaurant we wanted for breakfast was closed, so we ate at the one next to it. Marie’s Diner is a neighborhood restaurant, that was meh, but we were pleased to meet the Police Chief of North Charleston, and he was Black. Of course, Mr. K. had to talk with him about his “ministry,” Khan Academy. “Think about how many kids he can reach!”

We hit the road to Charleston and upon arriving, we drove around to see the historical splendor of the architecture there. Then we hunted down the Charleston Visitor Center for planning. The moment my feet hit the pavement of this town filled with history, I could feel the powerful energy of this city where the ravages of slavery started. So, of course, we asked for a Black Tour. We had a wait for the tour, so the guide suggested we walk to tour The Rhett-Aiken Mansion and its slave quarters.

We stepped down from the lobby to tour the building in the back of the mansion, the slave quarters. Painful? Yes. Feeling the depth of the experience of our Ancestors, Mr. K. and I acknowledged the resiliency of Black people.

Aiken-Rhett Mansion, image by Wikimedia Commons
Slave Quarters

Just touring the grandeur of the “big house,” as compared to the sad slave quarters, told us we would not seek any more of the Antebellum mansion experience. We were ready for our Black tour.

Charleston’s #1 Gullah Geechee, Black History, & Porgy & Bess

combination City Tour

This is how the tour pamphlet reads, and the tour was all that and more. Al Miller is a quintessential tour guide that taught us everything we needed to know about Charleston’s Black culture. He explored Gullah history and, at intervals, spoke their language, even teaching us a few idioms. We got off the bus to pay homage to the big mama, Angel Tree of John Island in Charleston, and Al told us how the legend reads that she carries the ghosts of slaves with her and that sometimes they appear.   What?!

We were treated to hear the history of the opera, Porgy & Bess, created in Charleston by Gershwin. He told us about Gershwin’s affinity for jazz, and how jazz influenced the opera. Miller is a member of an ensemble that performs Porgy & Bess and he plays several characters, one being Sportin’ Life, the villainous minx.. Miller stopped, stood, and in a booming baritone, sang “It Ain’t Necessarily So.” We were thrilled!! He also took us to church.

Miller is a cousin to 4 of the 9 Emmanuel AME Church members killed by Dylan Roof. He drove to the church and showed us where Roof entered. Then he shared the history of his family’s historic church and he recounted the strength of the woman cousin that expressed forgiveness for the murderous actions. Miller also admitted he could not be as generous with his forgiveness. Again, painful.

Miller gave us a glimpse into the church services he was used to. He clapped a rhythm and had us mimic him. Then, he started to clap in a syncopated way, as we kept the steady beat, and he sang again this time gospel. What a guide!

Of course, there was so much more he gave us, including tips and sad tidings about many of the restaurants. Some of the Black restaurants did not survive Covid. As he closed his tour, he pitched his book, Tourists Can Say the Darndest Things!  . Mr. K. gifted me the book, and I received an autograph and an agreement that he would appear in my blog and magazine. I have only started to read his book, and I am already laughing/crying as I learn even more about the history of this fascinating city. Thank you, Al Miller, for introducing us to where and how Black America entered this country and in spite of challenges, thrived.

Phillips Simmons sculpture and sound exhibit ,
Samuel “Goat” Smalls, the reall Porgy
Al Miller, Tour Guide, Marker signifying that Charleston is the home of the anthem, “We Shall Overcome,” Emmanuel AME Church, The Tree, and the grave of the real Porgy

Miller schools us on “The Color of Money”

Meeting Place

Remember this?

 

After finishing the tour, we were really hungry and decided to try the place suggested by our tour guide, Hyman’s Seafood, on Meeting Street. We were met with a tray of hush puppies, a hello snack to waiting customers. (I didn’t succumb!) To watch with no wait, we chose sidewalk dining and our wonderful server took our order. In Mr. K’s style, he began to chat with a family waiting in line in front of our table. He invited the elder mother to sit at our table, rather than stand in line. (That’s Mr. K.!) While the family entered the restaurant, our low-country boil came with hush puppies, (This time, I succumbed).

While dining we made friends with Phil and Tiffany Oliveira a delightful young couple dining next to us (via Mr. K. again). We were having so much fun that our waitress summoned the owner of Hyman’s, Eli Hyman. He shared his family’s history with the restaurant, and we swapped quips about raising family. It was clear that service was at the core of the success of this establishment. We went back to our hotel feeling full of great history, fine food, and friendship.

Notes of positivity are given to customers and this sign is plastered to the front of the window.
Thanks, Tiffany Oliveira
Our server and Tiffany and Phil Oliveira, young folks making us smile.

The next morning we made it to the restaurant next to the Meh one, The Junction Kitchen; and we chose vegetarian splendor for breakfast. We headed towards Charleston and decided to walk downtown Charleston before heading out to Hilton Head. We did not know if the famous Charleston Market was open. So we opted to get on the road to Hilton Head.

I don’t feel a bit bothered by pages unturned in Charleston. I know I will open this book again to the history, the sights, and the cuisine of this spirited city. Next, Hilton Head!

Joy Juice

Not to be discounted, Charleston carries the energy of a sordid history, past and recent.  While feelings emerged, so did the appreciation of the beauty of the city and the blessing of being with a partner who appreciates all that I do.  (The girls I travel with do too!). We met fine folks; it’s always part of a travel package. We attract them, and so will you.   I encourage us all to travel.  I don’t care if it’s to the town next door.  It’s where our perspective broadens, where our spirit grows. 

Beloved I pray that you may prosper in all things… – 3 John 1:2

No matter how full the river, it still wants to grow. ~ Congolese Proverb

 “If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.” Lao Tzu

“It’s all good/love/God” – Victorine

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“…the book title and its content are intended to be a whisper, reminding us that by taking the time to connect with our spiritual self, we can center through anything and that we are forever within the bubble of God’s protection.”

Don’t forget to check out Garden Spices Magazine, Celebrating our differences.

…Brief Visits

On the road from Charlotte, we stopped for a brief visit to meet “The Boyz,” Mr. K’s “family” of mechanics in Columbia. They tried to move him to the Shoals with me; I was like, “No, you guys take good care of him.” They agreed and admitted to the strength of their kindred friendship.

We made our way to Augusta, GA. No touring sites, but a great visit with old friends of mine, Cedar and Rodell Lawrence, and I finally, met their stunning daughter, Raegena.

The Lawrence family has retired beautifully from academia, with a home ready for visitors (hint, hint). While Cedar, Raegena, and I spoke of soul journeys and creating a She-shed for Cedar, Rodell and Mr. K. found they had so much in common, and were so encapsulated by their many life stories, we had to call them several times to come to the beautiful lunch prepared by Cedar. What?!

Cedar and Raegena flanked by much of their art collected during their travels and stations in higher education.
Mr. K., Victorine, Cedar, and Dr. Rodell Lawrence

Although brief, we had a wonderful visit and promised to return for a Lawrence tour of the Penn Center and to see the University of South Carolina, which holds their hearts.


Joy Juice

Nothing like rekindling spirits.  We have experienced so much this past year, visits like our time spent with the Lawrence family remind us of the importance of staying connected; how we must affirm our collective strengths, beauty, and resilience. (Pictured:  Two COVID survivors, a Caregiver, and a Cancer survivor).  We are blessed.

Oh…not to forget “the Boyz.”  I witnessed the strength of making family wherever we land in our life. Indeed, blessed!

“It’s all good/love/God.” – Victorine

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“…the book title and its content are intended to be a whisper, reminding us that by taking the time to connect with our spiritual self, we can center through anything and that we are forever within the bubble of God’s protection.”

Don’t forget to check out Garden Spices Magazine, Celebrating our differences.

And So It Begins! Charlotte, NC

Here we go…here we go!!!

First of all, I flew. I FLEW! That’s a big deal, post-COVID. I had a pleasant flight experience to Charlotte, NC, with absolutely no hitches. Mr. K was at the airport waiting for me, and off we went to our hotel. Mr. K and I are big-time GPSers. So, Mr. K. found our Wyngate destination near the airport in an area that was rather seedy. I was like…uhhh. FYI, there are several Wyngate hotels in Charlotte. We were at the wrong site. Always check your address before checking your GPS.

We settled in, I unpacked, and off we went to meet Kobi and Emory, Mr. K’s daughter and granddaughter. Our first-time meeting is encapsulated in one word – delightful; they were both down-to-earth, engaging, lovely women. Emory has a passion for writing, which is fed at Brown University. (Y’all know I couldn’t leave our visit at just one word, and don’t think I didn’t ask Emory to grace Garden Spices with her words). What?!!

Eating Charlotte

Inside Leah and Louise, North Charlotte

We ended our visit with Kobi and Emory hungry to taste Charlotte’s cuisine, and Kobi suggested what she considers to be the best restaurant in Charlotte, Leah and Louise. Unfortunately, we were too late and only experienced this…

…instead of this:

Cuisine at Leah and Louise, A Modern Juke Joint Camp, Camp North End
SARU Ramen, Camp North End

We were disappointed, but since we were already in Camp North End with stalls offering a myriad of choices, we landed at SARU Ramen and ordered the ramen Tonkutso noodles with bone broth, meat, and veggies. Here’s the thing. You order ramen…you eat noodles, right? You do unless the noodles are on top of a deep cup and you have to stir up all the goodies to get the full breadth of the experience. Of course, Mr. K. and I did not know this until I nosed over to the next table and noticed how they were eating. By this time, we had eaten quite a bit of our noodles. We stirred and really enjoyed our ramen. (Now, when somebody says they are eating ramen, I won’t think of the college dorm noodles).

Gotta Have My Art

The next day we let our hotel feed our stomachs for breakfast and The Harvey B. Gantt Center feed our souls. Thank goodness it was open, and we were able to view the wide collection of art by African Americans. From contemporary to ancient works, the center was filled with the cultural treasures that define Black art.

Our visit wasn’t long enough to sample the many cultural spices of Charlotte, but we were there long enough for me to taste the flavor of this city. It is progressive and high-end from the eye. Due to COVID, so many places had limited access, but the people were diverse, and every one of them was masked, indoors and outdoors. Mr. K. drove me through many areas of the city from North Charlotte and Midtown, to South Charlotte, Piper Glen, where his daughter lives. He says it won’t be my last visit, and I can’t wait to get back there to really dig into all Charlotte has to offer.

Joy Juice

I did have one more event. I met one of my “daughters” for the first time, Carla Renae, from SugarPearl’s. Never met so much joy, exuberance, with humility and beauty to boot. The only thing…we didn’t get a chance to have her cook for us.
NEXT VISIT!!!

“It’s all good/love/God” – Victorine

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“…the book title and its content are intended to be a whisper, reminding us that by taking the time to connect with our spiritual self, we can center through anything and that we are forever within the bubble of God’s protection.”

Don’t forget to check out Garden Spices Magazine, Celebrating our differences.

Where Do I Start?

I’m starting with me!   Y’all, I been traveling, but before I started, I had to come to terms with what I did during COVID. I ate and sat… and sat and ate, had a bout with COVID, which made me lie down, but afterward, I resumed my daily routine.  A hot mess, I was. After I got vaccinated, I knew I was ready to hit the road with Mr. K. and had to do something soon, so I decided to Noom. What?!!

Yep.  I bit the bullet and joined Noom, a different kind of eating program.  They got ya’ girl doing psychological warfare on crazy eating, serious accountability. I got all kinds of studies,  on anything from dialectical thinking to endocrinology, but what really helps me dig in are a lesson and a tool:

Lesson:   I have a thought, which triggers me to take action; if that action is against my well-being, my consequences are contrary to my ultimate desires.  Tool:  I got an “elephant,” (I call him Trumpet), that likes to eat and wraps me in his trunk when I eat what does not serve me, and I got a “trainer/rider,” Tara, that tames Trumpet and soothes me into doing the right thing.  Oh, I let Trumpet have his way, from time to time.  I need his assistance – to be able to identify him.  Noom makes me think and act like I have some sausage sense.

I got a bazillion tools that assist my process, and they are in concert with all my daily spiritual practices – meditation, mindfulness, what I talk about all the timeNo food is off-limits, but Noom’s got me learning how to enjoy the food I choose and not ingest the copious amounts I felt I had to eat to be sustained.  See this picture?

In Charleston, SC with Mr. K. and a Low Country Boil

Now, there was a time when I would have lit into that food until it screamed for mercy. HELP!!! But Mr. K. and I shared every bit of food we had on our vacation, and I even had bites of his dessert. What else?

I learned something really important; that sitting on my behind for hours at a time is the equivalent of smoking – it’s deadly. I turned 71 on May 14th. I intend to be here. You think I’m not up every two hours, walking, marching, dancing, doing whatever I can to save my life? Y’all betta’ get up too!

No, I have no “Before and After” pictures to show you, and the scale has only moved 15 pounds since March, but Y’all, my clothes fit again! I feel good, healthy, and confident that the results I need to find my balance will come. Of course, I’ll take you on my journey, but we got other stuff to talk about first.

Mr. K. and I were vaccinated, and we have been seriously vacationing. What?!! Stay tuned!!

Image: Food from SugarPearl’s

Web MD on Noom


Joy Juice

Here’s the thing…all that stuff I preach about meditation, intention, frequency, and balance apply to every aspect of our living, including eating.  Today, I feel I have found something that reminds me of what I know.  I hope you find what you need outside to remind you of what you have inside, that takes you to your balance.

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 Victorine, Bio

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“…the book title and its content are intended to be a whisper, reminding us that by taking the time to connect with our spiritual self, we can center through anything and that we are forever within the bubble of God’s protection.”

Don’t forget to check out Garden Spices Magazine, Celebrating our differences.