So, all of a sudden I can’t leave the house without a scarf. About 20 years ago, when I visited Europe, scarves were the rage. I just can’t let them go! It doesn’t matter what the time of year, I gotta have me something around my neck, my head, or my body. I told Mr. K. he gotta start wearing scarves too so we can be chic together – 20 years-after-they-were-the-trend, chic. I do see Senior guys I think are GQ with scarves, but I got another reason for wearing mine. Yes, some of my scarves are pretty, from all over the world, but this season of my life, they cover something else – just a hint of what appears to be w r i n k l e s. What?!!
I remember when my mother would look in the mirror and say, “I can’t believe my neck.” I would be like, “Amon, you look great. I don’t see anything.” Today, I’m hugging the mirror with eyes scrunching. Oh yeah, they are there, those gentle folds calling for an iron. Scarves to the rescue!
I know a woman that travels to India, and I have bought some beautiful scarves from her. The only thing is that some of them are sari lengths. You think that bothers me? Humph, I ‘ll keep wrapping them babies around my neck till they do what I need them to do. Sorry, sari. I even took one of my Indian scarves off the chest in my hall ’cause it matched my outfit. You have seen my favorites on so many pictures, I was like, “I just can’t wear this in a picture again.” Then, I’m like, “No picture today.” I’m not giving up my scarf.
African headwraps are also on point for those days when my fro is frothed. The key is to know how to wrap. This is where I’m challenged. In one dance performance, I had my headwrap tied in a bow. The girls were like, “Vic…no. This does not represent head wrapping.” Well, at least it was better than when I had fabric around my waist as a skirt, and it came off during a performance…at a church!! What?!!
Truth is, African fabric has the powerful energy of wrapping heads that need adornment and the healing of ancestors. Due to illnesses, it wraps some heads that no longer have hair. Beautifully. Majestically. When I get it right, I feel like a queen, and this fabric can claim my head, body, my heart.
When I was in Memphis this past weekend, a woman who collects scarves from Israel stopped to compliment one of my faves and noted that her scarves remind her of every country they represent. Being a global gal, I feel the same way, but I also know what they do for me. ‘Wrap up wrinkles; it’s not the time for you yet.’
We do what we can to look attractive, but hopefully with clothes that make us exude what we feel inside. We are beautiful, wrinkles and all. Even Cecily Tyson has a few. (So what if she’s in her 90s).
“It’s all good/God/Love” – Victorine
Featured image: I had to add a little bling with Michael Eric Dyson and my scarf. Bam!
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